Pam believes we all have lessons in life to learn. We have to learn them to survive and grow and until we learn these lessons, the universe is going to keep smacking us in the face with them. For me, the lessons I need to learn are petitions and that independence isn't awash the way to go. It is okay to ask for help, that friends are there for you, there to help you when you need a hand, just like we help each other. Heather--learn the lesson!